Monday, June 22, 2015

There is always hope! Escaping abuse and domestic violence by author Rebecca Marie



Title: One Month Week Day Hour Minute Second
Author: Rebecca Marie
Publisher: iUniverse
Pages: 113
Genre: Self Help/Personal Growth
Format: Ebook
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Abuse knows no boundaries. It doesn’t care if you are rich or poor, old or young. It can enter your life at any time and stay as long as you let it. In One Month Week Day Hour Minute Second, author Rebecca Marie discusses that the key is to release the secrets, talk about the abuse, and take the power away from the abusers. In this memoir, she shares her personal journey surviving sexual and physical abuse, describing how abusive patterns started at a young age, how negative self-esteem continued to grow, and how it ended in her falling in love with a psychopath. One Month Week Day Hour Minute Second narrates how Marie was victimized and lived in daily fear and despair, but discusses how she chose not to remain a victim and took power over her own life. Hoping to break the cycle of domestic abuse one victim at a time, Marie tells her emotional story to call attention to the problem of domestic violence. Her story shows there is hope for others.   amazon  

There is always hope! Escaping abuse and domestic violence.
Hoping to break the cycle of domestic abuse one victim at a time, I tell my emotional story to call attention to the problem of domestic violence.

I am a person just like you, as a matter of fact this could very well be your story or someone you know. I have experienced every emotion in my life from extreme happiness to deep sadness. I have made mistakes and I have had success. I believe that as long as we learn from our life experiences and keep growing from them, that we become the people we are meant to be.
There is a myth out there surrounding “Domestic Violence” that only certain social classes suffer from this epidemic. Abuse knows no boundaries. It doesn’t care if you are rich or poor, old or young. It can enter your life at any time and stay as long as you let it. In One Month Week Day Hour Minute Second, I discuss that the key is to release the secrets, talk about the abuse, and take the power away from the abusers. In this memoir, I share my personal journey of surviving sexual and physical abuse. I describe how abusive patterns started at a young age, how negative self-esteem continued to grow, and how it ended in me falling in love with a psychopath. One Month Week Day Hour Minute Second narrates how Rebecca was victimized and lived in daily fear and despair and discusses how I chose not to remain a victim and took power back over my own life.

I had tried leaving my husband before, but each time I would return back to him. I felt like he was becoming much more violent, much more unpredictable, and to continue on like that, I couldn’t do it anymore. I had to face the reality that if I stayed in the situation, I was going to die.

One weekend, my son and I went away to my mother’s house. I had no intention of leaving my husband at that time, but after he kept calling and arguing with me, accusing me of leaving him, I soon realized that he might be right. I got the courage to say, “You’re right, I’ve left you.” I reached out to a distress line, which in turn put me in contact with a shelter within my area. The turning point was realizing I could not do this alone, and I turned it over to those social workers and the people who deal with domestic violence on a regular basis. We can’t do this alone. That’s a really important message in this book. Anybody who’s survived abusive situations has a lot of strength. That’s what gets us through. There’s a time though when you have to let somebody else have that strength and you have to trust in the professionals. Anybody who believes no matter how small your children are, and no matter how well you think you’re sheltering them, every child knows what’s going on. The shelters are instrumental in helping the children. There’s counseling available for the children because it’s not just about you, it has an impact on everybody.

Receiving that help from the staff at the shelter ironically was another reason I decided to write my book. Although the counselors were amazing and the available resources were helpful, I still needed assistance surrounding the sexual abuse within my marriage. The counsellor said to me, “That’s one point where we don’t have a lot of resources.” They suggested a rape crisis center. I went to the rape crisis center and the counselor that I spoke to said, “I am so sorry, all I have is a two page article,” and she recommended one book which wasn’t even specific to what I had gone through. The counselor explained that it’s hard to find assistance for someone who is or has experienced rape or sexual abuse within their marriage because nobody wants to talk about it and there are little to no statistics on it. It was during this time, of my recovery that I decided to write my book. I wanted there to be another resource. Finally about two years ago, I said to myself, “You know what, this is it. This is the time you’re going to write this book, you’re going to help others, and become an advocate.”
Writing this book was very therapeutic, I was able to relive some of those unfortunate moments by writing about them. I’ve done a lot of therapy around it, and of course when you’re going to therapy one of the biggest things they tell you is write about it, journal it…when I was writing the book, it brought those feelings back again. There are some graphic details in the book, and I wanted to make sure I did it that way. Put it out there because I’m not the only one who has gone through this or is going to go through this. Again, it was hard to do, but what kept me going was it was important to be 100 percent upfront. The only way that this book would hold the power I truly wanted it to hold was to make sure I held nothing back, and I’m proud of that.

What I want people to take away from my story is that there is hope and resources available. Stop feeling ashamed. The abuser wants you to be ashamed and to isolate you. The other thing I want to make clear is if you know of someone going through this, be there for them, don’t be judgmental.
I want society to not turn a blind eye; if you witness abuse, or know of someone suffering, please reach out to get the victim help.

Let me and my book be added to your list of resources. As a Life Coach I can speak to your organization as a way to educate your staff, volunteers, victims, as well as fundraising events and corporate sponsors. The issue of domestic violence is ongoing. We all need to be advocates to stop the cycle. Please contact me @ rebeccamariehopes@gmail.com  

Review: From the first page to the last, readers are pulled into her story, and watch the cycle unfold. Rebecca masterfully walks readers through her story—their story—and serves as an inspiration to women around the world.


Available on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, Chapter’s/Indigo and iUniverse
ISBN: 978-1-4917-3524-4




Rebecca Marie enjoys being a mentor and her goal in sharing her story is to help others see there is hope.

Guest Post from Christopher T. Rand, author of Silver Diaspora


Title: Silver Diaspora
Author: Christopher T. Rand
Publisher: iUniverse
Pages: 320
Genre: Historical Memoir
Format: Ebook/Paperback
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 At the outset, the members of author Christopher T. Rand’s family lived in a world of great wealth. They were among the richest people in the United States. But they then faced a dilemma: compelled to choose between staying on in their ancestral world or keeping up with the times in the nation around them and integrating themselves into the American mainstream. With each generation, the pressure on these individuals to choose between escape or immersion into the society became more and more intense. In Silver Diaspora, Rand examines his family’s roots in the northeastern United States and chronicles his journey through these times, against the backdrop of the family history. Embarking on a search of a better new world, Rand’s parents leave the East Coast and land in California. From here, this memoir follows Rand through college at Berkeley, travels abroad, work in the petroleum industry and his experiences as a writer. Describing the people, places and experiences that impacted Rand’s life, Silver Diaspora provides one man’s insight into the world in the latter two-thirds of the last century.   amazon  

The Compass.
I always wanted to be a writer, from childhood.


Rand portrays the growth and evolution of the privileged, highly affluent world in which he grew up. Among the richest people in America, the members of his family formed a broad panorama of figures in equal measure sarcastic, long-suffering, glamorous, blindly superstitious and randomly frustrated -- comedians of the erratic. However, as their generations succeeded one another, they wrestled with the dilemma of staying on in their ancestral world or integrating themselves into the American mainstream. Through a historical and social narrative that covers the growth of the nation from colonial times to the present, Rand’s work, from the perspective of their lives, up through his parents and closest relatives, gives personality and life to a broad range of striking figures and major political and social developments in the history of our nation.

Christopher T. Rand has worked as a writer, consultant, and translator. He is the author of Making Democracy Safe for Oil and has worked on litigation with the Federal Trade Commission and the state of California. Rand lives in the San Francisco Bay Area, and has two children.  

Friday, June 19, 2015

Highlander vs. Warrior, Giric vs. Valentine - Which Hero gets your vote?

Hero vs. Hero
Summer’s just around the corner, and what better way to celebrate than a hot one-of hero vs. hero match between two hunky historical heroes!

 In one corner there’s Diana Cosby’s Giric Armstrong, rugged Highlander. Giric-Armstrong_FACE Giric-Armstrong_STATS

 In the other, his opponent: Valentine Alesander, crusading warrior. Valentine_FACE Valentine_STATS

 Who will win? That’s up to you! Read up on these heroes and place your votes now through June 22nd.

And come back June 23rd to see who will be victorious!   http://kensingtonheroes.tumblr.com/historicalhero  

Wednesday, June 17, 2015

Guest Post from Sarah Smith Ducksworth, author of No Crystal Stair


Title: No Crystal Stair
Author: Sarah Smith Ducksworth
Publisher: Trafford
Genre: Poetry
Format: Kindle

 Each poem in this collection is a reflection upon the author’s personal life or is a response to her vicarious interactions in the lives of characters she has met in real life or in books. Through the critical lens of poetry, she has looked for deeper meanings inside those experiences. Though the writer ends with an understanding that her life has not been a “crystal stair,” alluding to the hardships the titular character in Langston Hughes’ Poem--“The Negro Mother”-- faced, the writer feels that these poems, all together, reflect her world view and personal Truth.

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Guest Post 

When I was in elementary school, my mother, who observed me constantly scribbling on paper, told me I should never write anything down that I would be embarrassed to have the world read. She gave me this warning back in the day when both manual and electric typewriters were primarily considered office equipment and there were no digital devices available for composing and sending messages through space. Moreover, the technology did not exist for desktop and portable computers which could store countless volumes of random thoughts. Back in those olden days, I was what you might call a stream of conscious writer, putting my ideas and fancies into notebooks. And, my mother perceived a danger in this.

As a child I did not realize that such eclectic and responsive writing could be classified as therapy.  All I knew was that writing was for me a necessary extension of myself. I wrote about things I thought about—things that hurt my feelings, desires for revenge, wishes, and whatever else that made me tick. The same is true today. I write about things that trouble me, about fantasies that intrigue me, etc.; and, in the process, I exorcise demons and find ways to improve good and bad situations.

Of course, over the years, there have been times when the wrong people have gotten hold of some rant I’ve written and used it against me. The trouble my mother perceived so long ago has been proven time and time again as prophetic. And so, over time, I have become more careful in protecting my private thoughts. Still, the digital world has caused me a huge setback. The world-wide web, rife with hackers, has become my biggest challenge. Based on recent experience, I know first-hand that the internet is no place to vent.     

Back in 2010, I went online and filled out a form posted by a self-proclaimed “ethics investigator.” I asked this expert about the ethics of a local prosecutor who would not assist me in finding out who was hacking my cell phone. I also invited comments from visitors to this “legal” website. In my post, I explained that there was a person who was remotely using up data on my phone and that this person had caused my cell phone, while it was lying dormant inside my pocketbook, to dial my landline phone. 

Since that ethics question was posted in 2010, it has stayed prominently associated online with my name. Someone must be very interested in this post; yet, there has never been a response to my query, either from the ethics investigator or from one of his visitors. I felt hopeful when I first posted the question, but its staying power as an online item both puzzles and bothers me today.

Do I regret putting a sensitive question into the public sphere, which has the life span of dirt? The answer is yes. But, on the other hand, my life has been greatly enriched by the caveat my action provided. As result of my experience, I will consider the thin line between public and private communications when it comes to social media in the future. 

Now, I face another consideration: Do I have to slash and burn my electronic diaries? After being hacked, I believe I should. Unfortunately, the loss of this private writing could translate into a loss of wisdom and hamper my growth as a writer. The only solution may be returning to pen and pad. But, even that may not work if someone really wants to get me and invades my home. Farfetched, you say?  
When confronted with the choice of writing freely for emotional release or not writing things I don’t want to share, I have to choose writing anyway and taking the precaution to keep those ideas off the web. 

Writers from the past and present support me in extolling the therapeutic value of writing to explore one’s own world view. Graham Greene conveyed the benefits of diary writing when he mused: “I wonder how all those who do not compose or paint can manage to escape the madness, melancholia, the panic and fear which is inherent in a human situation.”          

About the Author

For most of her life, Sarah Smith Ducksworth has seen herself as a teacher who writes. She has had a teaching career spanning nearly forty years and has taught language arts in New York and in New Jersey middle schools, high schools and universities. This current book of creative writings represents a reversal in the way she has begun to identify herself and launches her intent to spend the rest of her life pursuing her love of writing.


Tuesday, June 16, 2015

Interview with Ruby Lee Tuesday, author of Better Believe: A Story of Hope


Title: Better Believe
Author: Ruby Lee Tuesday
Publisher: Trafford
Pages: 132
Genre: Biography
Format: Ebook
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 Ruby Lee Tuesday was born to be her father’s property. Trapped in an abusive home where only perfect was good enough for the devil, Ruby attempted to distract herself from his ways through her music, poetry, art, and most importantly, her faith in God. Tuesday shares a heartbreaking story of childhood trauma as she bravely pursued her dreams, despite living with parents who seemed determined to destroy her, both physically and emotionally. While providing a riveting look into the ways of an abuser, Tuesday details how her mistreatment eventually caused her to lose her faith, embark on a path of self-destruction, and succumb to panic attacks and depression. But through it all, Tuesday somehow managed to find solace and an escape in her music, ultimately leaving everything behind and bravely following her dream all the way from Norway to Nashville, Tennessee, where she would find faith once again. Better Believe is a story of determination, passion, betrayal, friendship, and hope as one woman journeys from the darkness of abuse into the light of healing where she learns to believe in herself for the first time.

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Can we start out by telling us whether you are published for the first time or are you multi-published?

This is the first time I write a book and it is the first time I publish a book.

When you were published for the first time, which route did you go – mainstream, small press, vanity published or self-published and why or how did you choose this route?

I chose to go Self-published because I had the means to do so.

How long did it take you to get published once you signed the contract?

I wrote and published this book within 1 year, 2014.

How did it make you feel to become published for the first time and how did you celebrate? 

My feelings were a little mixed when I published this book. On one hand I was very proud that I had finally voiced my story and thereby broken out of a bondage of silence. I also felt as if I did something wrong when I told my story, you see everything that happened within our family was to never be told. We never talked about it, just let it happen. So when I now tell my story I kind of break the number one rule of all domestic violence families, namely not to talk about it. My sister didn’t like it at all so she has, as far as my knowledge goes, pressed charges against me in Norway to have the book withdrawn from the market. So as far as celebrating it I kind of struggled with the whole thing and the celebration I have yet to look forward to. But in my heart I am very proud that I dared to voice my story and to keep moving toward my final goal in life, to record and release my album “…butAlive!!!” as LadyLoveRebel. And I am working on the album now. So as far as further goals in life, I am still focusing on reaching this one. My story and my music.

What was the first thing you did as for as promotion when you were published for the first time?

I promoted in on my web page www.ladyloverebel.com and I also made agreements with Trafford to market and promote my book.

Ruby Lee Tuesday has spent years on healing both physically and spiritually. She is a poet, singer, and songwriter who plays a variety of instruments. Ruby left Norway in 2013 to pursue her dreams in Nashville, Tennessee. This is her first book.